It is not that hard to woo a girl. Let me repeat that, it is not that hard to woo a girl. Over the years I’ve heard many of my guy friends, and dates, say things like “girls are complicated” and “you can never please a girl.” And you think we over analyze everything? Refer back to all those romantic movies your gal pals made you watch. Okay, sorry right you weren’t paying attention to the movie because you were too busy trying to do the fake yawning, throw your arm around her shoulders thing. Well, all those sappy flicks that girls gush over (sure, I do it to) illustrate a few key moves that you should learn:
OPEN THE DOOR. I can’t stress this enough. And no, it’s not good enough to open the door for yourself and hand it off to her. Remember, she’s not your basketball buddy; she’s a girl you’re trying to hook up with. And if you’re not polite and generous out in public, she’s not going to think you’ll be that way behind closed doors. OCD guy not only didn’t open the door for me, he actually walked so fast and far ahead of me that he had to turn his head back to partifipate in the conversation. This says to me “I’m not interested enough."PAY UP.
Yes, this may sound sexist and I’m sorry but on the first 2-3 dates, the guy should pick up the tab. It shows a girl that she’s worth it. Of course, if your date orders lobster and champagne with out any regard to the cost, especially now a days, than she’s probably not a keeper. I was actually just reading an article in Glamour Magazine (70th issue) that talked about how the dating scene is/will change in regards to the economy. It speculated that guys will probably start coming up with more inventive dates as a means to save some cash. GIRLS LOVE THIS. Anyone can pick a restaurant and a movie, but it takes a lot more thought to plan a fun, cheap date. Pack a picnic and head to the beach. I guarantee this will at least get you to second base. By the fourth date it’s totally acceptable (at least in my book) to go dutch on the bill. Hey, you both work hard for your money and the man shouldn’t be expected to shell out at every turn. I’m also all for the woman picking up the tab every once in a while, especially if you have been dating for an extended period of time. I know allowing a girl to take you out might be tough for some of you guys, but if she’s independent she’ll love that you let her take care of you a little. Oh yes, and let’s not forget about The Meal At Home date. Check out Cook To Bang for recipes and ideas.
PARTICIPATE IN THE CONVERSATION.
Obviously, you should be dating a chica that you share some interests with. If you’re both into sports, great. If you play baseball and she thinks the score is kept in goals than I would suggest you stray from talking ESPN. A good way to always make sure you have some common material to use when the conversation is stretched, watch the news! Know at least the local headlines. Chances are, even if she’s pole dancer, she’ll have something to say about the rise in gas prices. Thong man focused most of his dialogue towards what kind of work out he had planned for the day which allowed me little chance to jump into the conversation. It was hard to explore his personality and find out if we had anything in common when all he could talk about was working his chest. Well, I guess that was his personality…
PUT DOWN THE PHONE! Really, are you texting right now? Who is that on the other line? Another girl? Maybe your GIRLFRIEND? Yes, this has actually happened to me and I find nothing ruder. I’d rather have the guy let the door slam in my face than have him texting back and forth to whomever during dinner. Is he giving his buddies a play by play? Because I can tell them how the game is going to end and it won’t be a high score.
All those “awwwes” that you hear girls sigh during the romantic comedies usually come at the point when they guy says “You look really nice tonight” then reaches out for his dates hand or throws an arm around her waist. Being sweet will get you places and those places are nice and warm. If you’re not a proponent of PDA that’s fine, you can still toss a compliment her way. Tell her you dig her outfit (because you know she agonized over what to wear and probably changed her clothes five times). Or tell her she has pretty eyes. Don’t go so far as to say staring into her peppers is like looking into a pool of moonlight because that’s just lame and it won’t sound sincere. Tell her your enjoying the conversation and you find her views refeshing. This does double duty, makes her feel all warm and melty because you said something nice AND shows that you're paying attention to her chatter. And I’m sure you’ve heard this one from your mommy, but be yourself. No girl likes it when she’s dating a guy and a few months and then he pulls a Mr. Hyde. We’re the same creatures that do a back round check on a manufacturer before buying their shoes. We like to know what we’re getting into. Especially the time crunched 20-something. We don’t have months to waste getting to know a guy just to have him pull out his alter ego when things get serious. Ponder this for a minute, if you fake your personality to get a girl to stick with you, is she really a good match for you or should she be dating the movie character you ripped off? Things will end badly when she finds out your not actually Tyler Durden unless she’s into split personality disorders.So there it is guys, just a few simple suggestions. Listen to them and I’m sure your dating game will sky rocket. Remember, on the first few dates you are trying to impress this lady. She’s not ready to see all your quirks or your sweat pants with the Spagehetti O stains. Sharing that part of you is one of the perks that come with a more serious relationship. To put it in manly terms; when you go to a strip club, part of the fun is watching the girl take her clothes off. If you walked in and they were all already naked, wouldn’t some of the thrill be gone? I mean, the best part is when they whip off the glasses and let their hair down at the crescendo of “Hot for Teacher.” Save the fart jokes and slobbering for the crescendo, don’t throw it out there during the intro.
Check it out: How to handle yourself on the first date
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